Friday, February 8, 2013

Severe Abuse at Home Linked to Dating Violence

Jan. 18, 2013 — (Science Daily) Young urban black women who are exposed to severe abuse within their families are much more likely to be victims of dating violence, according to a study led by a Michigan State University researcher.

Angie Kennedy said efforts to prevent dating violence should include discussion of what might be going on in the victim's home.

"There is a lot of focus on trying to prevent dating violence for high school students, which is an important goal," said Kennedy, MSU associate professor of social work. "But if you're sitting in a group talking about conflict with your dating partner and meanwhile have all these things going on within your family and no one's addressing it, that's a problem."

Youths exposed to violence in their families may begin to understand it as a normal part of life, according to the study, which appears in the research journal Violence Against Women.

Kennedy and colleagues surveyed 180 female high school students in a poor Chicago community and found that:
  • 85 percent of them witnessed domestic abuse in their homes, with nearly half (49 percent) reporting an adult with an injury related to the abuse
  • 72 percent were physically abused themselves 
  • 29 percent were sexually abused.
 Dating violence was strongly associated with experiencing severe levels of these forms of family abuse, the study found.

Extreme family violence also was linked to exposure to prostitution, albeit it on a limited scale. That exposure mostly involved the participants being asked if they wanted to exchange sex for money, not actively engaging in prostitution, Kennedy said.

Kennedy's co-researchers were Deborah Bybee and Gretchen Archer from MSU and Shanti Kulkarni from the University of North Carolina, Charlotte.

Friday, September 16, 2011

Vice President Joe Biden Speaks Out Against Domestic Violence

SOURCE: The White House

1 is 2 Many

Despite the significant progress made in reducing violence against women, there is still a long way to go. Young women still face the highest rates of dating violence and sexual assault. In the last year, one in 10 teens have reported being physically hurt on purpose by a boyfriend or girlfriend. One in five young women have been sexually assaulted while they’re in college.

In response to these alarming statistics, Vice President Biden is focusing his longstanding commitment to reducing violence against women specifically on teens and young women ages 16-24. By targeting the importance of changing attitudes that lead to violence and educating the public on the realities of abuse, the Vice President is leading the way in an effort to stop violence against women before it begins.

Share Your Ideas

We need your help.  As teens and young women across the country head back to school this month, tell us how you think we can make campuses safer for all students and share your ideas for preventing dating violence and sexual assault. From September 13th – the 17th anniversary of the passage of the Violence Against Women Act – to September 27th, use the form below to submit your ideas, or use the hashtag #1is2many to share on Twitter.

Please visit the White House Website to participate. 


Tuesday, August 9, 2011

Excerpt From Phyllis Chesler's Book -- 'Mothers On Trial'


Published August 05, 2011
 
Editor’s note: Fox News Opinion presents the introduction and an excerpt from the completely revised second edition of Phyllis Chesler's book "Mothers on Trial": 

This is a book that cried out to be written. I first heard that cry in the mid-1970s and, after years of research, published the first edition of “Mothers on Trial: The Battle for Children and Custody” in 1986. At the time, the book created a firestorm and was widely, if controversially, received.

In the last twenty-five years, there have been some improvements, but matters have decidedly worsened. The book you are holding has been revised and updated and brought into the twenty-first century.

Myths about custody still abound. Most people still believe that the courts favor mothers over fathers—who are discriminated against because they are men—and that this is how it’s always been.

This is not true.

For more than five thousand years, men—fathers—were legally *entitled* to sole custody of their children. Women—mothers—were *obliged* to bear, rear, and economically support their children. No mother was ever legally entitled to custody of her own child....

(go to the website for complete article)

The contemporary fathers’ rights (or fathers’ supremacist) movement, which has been wildly successful in instituting joint custody and false concepts such as “parental alienation syndrome,” is also a throwback to the darkest days of patriarchy. It is not the modern, feminist, progressive movement it claims to be. Individual men may indeed be good fathers, and, like good mothers, they too may encounter discrimination and injustice in the court system. What I am talking about here is an organized political, educational, and legal movement against motherhood that has turned the clock back.

This book is about what it means to be a “good enough” mother and about the trials such mothers endure when they are custodially challenged. This book is not about happy marriages or happy divorces—it is about marriages and divorces that erupt into wild and bitter custody battles.

(go to the website for complete article)

Many judges also assume that the father who fights for custody is rare and therefore should be rewarded for loving his children, or they assume that something is wrong with the mother. What may be wrong with the mother is that she and her children are being systemically impoverished, psychologically and legally harassed, and physically battered by the very father who is fighting for custody.

Today more and more mothers, as well as the leadership of the shelter movement for battered women, have realized that battered women risk losing custody if they seek child support or attempt to limit visitation. Incredibly, mothers also risk losing custody if they accuse fathers or physically or sexually abusing them or their children—even or especially if these allegations are supported by experts.

(go to the website for complete article)

Given so many double standards for fit mothering and fathering and so many anti-mother biases, I wanted to know: Could a “good enough” mother lose custody of a child to a relatively uninvolved or abusive father? How often could this happen?

I first interviewed sixty mothers who had been their children’s primary caregivers, were demographically similar to the majority of divorced white mothers in America, and had been custodially challenged in each geographical region of the United States and Canada.

On the basis of these interviews I was able to study how often “good enough” mothers can lose custody when their ex-husbands challenge them. I was able to study why “good enough” mothers lose custody battles and how having to battle for custody affects them.

On the basis of these interviews and on the basis of additional interviews with fifty-five custodially embattled fathers, I was able to study the kinds of husbands and fathers who battled for custody, their motives for battling, and how and why they won or lost.

I was also able to study the extent to which the custodially triumphant father encouraged or allowed the losing mother access to her children afterward.

To repeat: Seventy percent of my “good enough” mothers lost custody of their children.

(go to the website for complete article)

Revisions clarify law on false claims of child abuse

"They wanted to call attention to it," Ellison said, adding he remains concerned about the potential fallout for mothers trying to protect their children from an abusive father.
"Basically this is a bill designed to protect husbands in divorce cases," Ellison said. "This is a bill written by men for men." 
 
Local experts played a key role in rewriting a bill introduced by State Rep. Sal Esquivel, R-Medford, which originally was viewed with alarm by those who work to protect children.

The bill, recently signed into law and designed to discourage punitive or vindictive reporting of child abuse, underwent significant changes as it made its way to the governor's desk. The changes were necessary to protect children and to assure the public that reporting suspected abuse is not only the right thing to do, it is safe for them to do so, experts say.

"This bill started out as a major disaster and a blow to child victims. But it has been reduced and narrowed to a much less harmful form," said Ashland resident Randy Ellison, an adult survivor of child sexual abuse and board president of Oregon Advocates and Survivors in Service.

House Bill 2183, which was signed into law by Gov. John Kitzhaber in July, makes it a violation — punishable by a $720 maximum fine — to knowingly make false allegations of child abuse to police or the Department of Human Services. The state must prove that the intent of the false report is to influence child custody, visitation or child support, Ellison said.

One of the bill's main targets was adults who use malicious allegations of abuse in bitter divorce or child custody cases, said Esquivel.

"People getting divorced can make ugly accusations," Esquivel said. "It happens more often than you might think."

When Esquivel and House Judiciary Co-chairman Wayne Kreiger, R-Gold Beach, initially presented their bill before the House, the proposed fine was $6,250 and the violator faced a misdemeanor criminal charge which could have resulted in jail time.

The changes are a relief to child abuse experts who said Esquivel's bill, as written, would have had a chilling effect on a crime that is already under-reported.

Ellison testified in Salem against the proposed legislation, along with representatives from the Oregon District Attorneys Association, the Oregon Network of Child Abuse Intervention Centers, the Oregon School Employees Association, Children First and the Child Advocacy Section of the Oregon Department of Justice.
Ellison said he remains concerned the new law will be misinterpreted by the public, which could have a quelling effect on everyone from teachers to neighbors to relatives who might suspect child abuse, and be afraid to report due to misunderstandings.

The law does not punish those who might make a false reports based on honest mistakes. Only those that are due to malicious intent, Esquivel said. It was never his intent to limit reporting of actual child abuse, or cause consternation amongst child welfare experts. He also does not oppose the changes that were made to his bill, Esquivel said.

Ellison said holding people accountable for false reports is appropriate. But there was already a law on the books that made it a crime to knowingly make a false report of any crime to the police or other agency. ORS 162.375 states that initiating a false report is a Class C misdemeanor, punishable by a $1,250 fine and 30 days in jail. Ellison questions the need for a new law that "pulls out that one type of false reporting and makes it a violation," he said.

"They wanted to call attention to it," Ellison said, adding he remains concerned about the potential fallout for mothers trying to protect their children from an abusive father.

"Basically this is a bill designed to protect husbands in divorce cases," Ellison said. "This is a bill written by men for men."

There could be unintended consequence of keeping children trapped in abusive situations because adults are fearful of making a report that, while true, might not be able to be proven, he said.

"If a woman is out and away from an abuser, it may be the first time ever she feels safe to report (her partner committed child abuse)," Ellison said. Esquivel's bill had the support of at least one Oregon senator. According to news reports, Sen. Jeff Kruse, R-Roseburg, testified he was once the victim of a trumped-up claim of child abuse.

Ellison said he had sympathy and empathy for anyone victimized because of a false report of abuse. But statistics show child abuse is the most under-reported crime next to domestic abuse, he said.

People should not be worrying about being wrong when deciding to report or not, Ellison said. People need to report suspected abuse. If people are in doubt, they should err on the side of reporting, he said.
Esquivel said he encourages people to report child abuse.

"You won't get in trouble unless you have malicious intent," Esquivel said.

Reach reporter Sanne Specht at 541-776-4497 or email sspecht@mailtribune.com

Florida Mother Gagged by Judge Brodie Forced To Shut Down Blog


August 6, 2011                                     
Press Release
                                                                                                              
Another mother, another court order by a family court judge violating her constitutional right to Freedom of Speech. In the last few weeks, the Naples News highlighted the story of Julie Price. Julie created a blog  and now…..just like other courageous mothers all over the US….in expressing her right to freedom of speech….. but on August 4, 2011 the trial court of Judge Brodie told Julie to take down the blog.
 
The Naples News in their story told about alarming details from the court file and the felony child abuses charges being faced by her former husband in regards to hog tying Julies daughter to a bed, for which Jon Parrish admitted to. http://www.naplesnews.com/news/2011/jul/08/attorney-Jon-Parrish-zip-tie-daugh..
 
In the hearing the judge was not concerned that the former Husband was not complying with court orders, but yet admonished Julie for her blog, which  only expressed her concern for the safety and well being of her daughters and  how the “court appointed” experts were handling her case.
 
One wonders, when will justice prevail for Julie Price, her children and all of America’s children involved in the child-custody visitation scandal cases happening all over the US.
 
The American Bar Association statistics on Custody states that Batterers go into family court, and ask for Sole Custody and get it 70% of the time. So if a parent has documented evidence of Domestic Violence to the other parent, and documented evidence of child sexual and/or physical abuse that parent will get custody 70% of the time. If you think…that can’t be true..I have attached the ABA Custody Myths stats for you.
 
The Leadership Counsel states that 58,000 children a year are court ordered to live with a sexually and or/physically abusive parent after a divorce in the United States. (www.theleadershipcounsel.org)
 
The safe, “protective parent” has their rights terminated or they are placed on supervised visitation for years and years without a case plan or reunification plan. 
 
Please contact Jacob Carpenter at the Naples News and ask them to please continue to cover this story. His email address is jcarpenter@naplesnews.com
 
Jun 29, 2011 – Contact JACOB CARPENTER. We will not store the e-mail addresses or share them with .... No matter the predictions, it only takes one storm. ...
www.naplesnews.com/staff/jacob-carpenter/contact/ - Cached
 
Thank you to all of the organizations, advocates and mothers all over the US who continue to be part of the solution to the family court crisis. One day…justice will prevail.
 
For more information:
Please contact:
Co-Chair of the Child Custody and Family Court Committee
Florida  NOW (National Organization for Women)
 
 
 July 29, 2011
 
A Mothers tale of the Family Courts…in this blog below….and a very courageous Mother……
this was just in the Naples News…in Florida……
http://www.naplesnews.com/news/2011/jul/08/attorney-Jon-Parrish-zip-tie-daugh.. (please email this writer and say thank you for covering this story..as this needs to be exposed)
 
Another city….another group of “ Court ordered experts” and a very courageous Mother….one of us….the “squeaky clean Mom”….who only loves her children, and tries to protect them …. from…documented abuse….
 
the court record…shows her child being hog tied by the father to the bed, he admitted that yes..he did this and that it is his constitutional right…and he faces felony child abuse charges…..
 but the court allows him to take another child to Russia who he has Sole physical custody of….. and the GAL is holding him up as father of the year…
 
 the Court Appointed Custody evaluator is Dr. Debra Carter and the father paid $30,000 for an evaluation……and now this wonderful Mother is on Supervised Visitation and faces a hearing where the father wants her to be put in jail….
 
 Please forward this blog everywhere…..this is a very courageous Mom….and now is being told “she will be in big trouble” for writing this blog…
 
 If you know of any Dr. Debra Carter cases from this case  or Dr. Deborah Day cases, in my case,  please let me know….as more of these cases are coming forward…..it is very important to please bring them to my attention.
 
One day justice will prevail….
Thank you,
Jul 18, 2011 – The psychologist in her case, Dr. Deborah Day, actually provided false and misleading ... Posted by Julie Satterfield-Price at 4:46 PM ...
www.juliepricechildrencrisiscourts.org/.../psychologists-in-floridatruth-integrity.html - Cached
 
1 day ago – Still, Dr. Carter has branded me as the "bad parent." It is ...
www.juliepricechildrencrisiscourts.org/ - Cached
 
Jul 13, 2011 – Ironically, Lisa's former husband also hired the same ...
www.juliepricechildrencrisiscourts.org/2011/07/day-25.html - Cached
 

General child welfare-related legislation in the U.S. Congress

Put together by:  Legally Kidnapped

This is a list of current child welfare-related bills in the U.S. Congress. Although I attempted to ensure that it is an exhaustive list, I may have missed one or more. If you know of a child welfare-related bill that is not in this list, please let me know! General child welfare-related legislation in the U.S. Congress

Friday, August 5, 2011

EXTREME CUSTODY DECISIONS THAT RISK LIVES

By Barry Goldstein
Dear Custody Court Judge:

The research is now clear that certain extreme decisions in domestic violence custody cases that have become all too common are contributing to an increase in the frequency of domestic violence homicide and other harmful consequences. This is established in the leading resources about domestic violence and custody including THE BATTERER AS PARENT by Lundy Bancroft and Jay Silverman, DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, ABUSE and CHILD CUSTODY edited by Mo Therese Hannah and Barry Goldstein and the major new Department of Justice study led by Dr. Daniel Saunders of the University of Michigan. Judges should be aware of the research that demonstrates the danger of creating these dangerous decisions avoid these decisions in the future and modify existing arrangements that create substantial risks to the children.

The decisions that must be avoided and corrected are ones in which an alleged abuser is given custody and a safe, protective mother is limited to supervised or no visitation. I will more fully describe these dangerous cases below and I am not saying it can never be right to give someone custody who was accused of domestic violence or child abuse or that a mother who makes abuse allegations should never be denied normal visitation.

I will discuss the harm and danger of these extreme decisions below, but judges should be aware that these decisions are probably the largest factor in the recent increase in domestic violence homicide. Furthermore these extreme decisions are never in the best interests of children even when the court is right that the abuse allegations are false and the mother seeks to take the father out of the child's life for bad faith reasons. More commonly, the research demonstrates that court professionals who used flawed practices to justify the extreme decision also got the underlying facts wrong. Judges should look to the specialized body of research now available that can help courts make the best decisions in domestic violence custody cases. .....

Excerpts - To read the article in its entirety, please visit Barry's website.
The real problem is the 3.8% of cases that go to trial and usually far beyond. The vast majority of these cases, probably around 90% are domestic violence cases that involve the worst of the worst abusers. These are usually cases where the father had little involvement with the children during the relationship, but suddenly demands custody as a way to pressure her to return or punish her for leaving. Abusers tend to be good at manipulation and court professionals are usually happy to find a father who appears to want to be involved in his children’s lives. The flawed “high conflict” approach works great for abusers because it requires the parties to interact and cooperate with each other. This gives him the access to his victim he sought by playing the custody card. At the same time it pressures the mother to cooperate with her abuser and punishes her reluctance to interact with someone she experienced as dangerous and difficult. In other words the “high conflict” approach gives abusers a huge advantage.

The most dangerous abusers are the ones who believe she has no right to leave him. They usually respond to her leaving in one or more of three ways. They respond by killing her which is why75% of men who kill their partners do so after she has left. They respond by killing their children. In the last couple of years over 175 children have been murdered by abusive fathers involved in contested custody cases. Most often they respond by going after custody as a tactic to regain control and too often custody courts help them do so......

....The evaluators and other mental health professionals routinely relied on by the courts are not experts in domestic violence and usually unfamiliar with the specialized body of research now available. This has led judges and lawyers to be taught a lot of misinformation and continue to use outdated and discredited practices. Significantly, the Department of Justice study found many evaluators and other court professionals do not have the domestic violence training they need. Those professionals without the needed training are more likely to believe the myth that women frequently make false allegations of abuse and therefore make recommendations harmful to children.....

....The Department of Justice study found that court professionals pay far too much attention to the anger or emotion a mother displays in court in comparison to its significance in determining how good a mother she is. Similarly over forty states have had court-sponsored gender bias committees that have found substantial bias against women and particularly against mothers involved in custody disputes. One of the common forms of bias is to blame a mother for the actions of her abuser. This is exactly what a court does when it blames the mother for her emotion or anger caused by the father’s history of abuse and use of abusive litigation tactics instead of blaming him for intimidating and coercive behaviors that caused her reaction. Gender bias is often difficult to recognize because it is not done deliberately or consciously and some court professionals become extremely defensive when this issue is raised. A good remedy is to frequently consider how you would have reacted to the same situation if the genders were reversed....

As discussed earlier these decisions lead to a higher crime rate in addition to the increase in domestic violence homicide. A large majority of our prison population witnessed domestic violence or suffered direct abuse. The extreme decisions discussed in this article increase this unfortunate population. These mistakes also have a profound negative impact on society. The increased crime requires substantial expenditures in the criminal justice system as well as property losses and injuries. These mistakes also substantially increase health expenses that raise insurance rates and taxes when the government pays health costs. At the same time, by destroying or limiting the potential of these children, and others, it reduces economic output thus reducing tax revenue. 

Barry Goldstein is a nationally recognized domestic violence expert, speaker, writer and consultant. He is the co-editor with Mo Therese Hannah of DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, ABUSE and CHILD CUSTODY. Barry can be reached by email at their web site www.Domesticviolenceabuseandchildcustody.com